Tue, 4 Nov 2003
Read Hosea, especially 2:6, and 6:1, Deals
Tue, 4 Nov 2003
Because of Sarahs faith and willingness to
obey Abram, God saved their marriage twice...once when Sara was
changed of heart to obey her husband....becoming
Sarah....second when she went as his sister obediently risking
herself..God saved them both and Abram learned faith enough to
Tue, 4 Nov 2003 08:59:50 -0800
what about Hosea's marriage? and His Own? for are we not the
bride of Christ and He the Bridegroom? He saved us!!!!!
Actually, I suspect the reason that Jesus
didn't "heal" a marriage, per se, is that "divorce"
as we know it today, DID NOT EXIST in those times. Unless, of
course, you want to count the one He healed before he was born...can
you say JOSEPH and MARY?
However, if you recall the woman at the well....and the woman
who was caught in adultery.....Those were relationship issues,
were they not?
And, while it is an Old Testament book, Hosea speaks of such
things... there are verses and verses and verses throughout scripture
You said: "so now i ask my question. why are there examples
of Jesus healing the sick (as could be done with medicine) and
doing other miracles ( as could be done with "magic"
as in Exodus ) yet there are no examples of Jesus healing a marriage?
For discussion purposes: is healing a marriage
to big of a miracle?
ARE YOU SERIOUS? NOTHING IS TOO BIG OR TOO SMALL OR IMPOSSIBLE
WITH GOD! Even finding a set of lost car keys! Do you HONESTLY
think that a God who spoke a world into existence could be stymied
by something as trivial as a human marriage?
HONESTLY, it's a good thing I can't see you
or I'm afraid I might SHAKE YOU! (just kidding...lol) God's promises
are true...the only thing is...TO EVERY PROMISE IS ATTACHED A
CONDITION. You can't expect God to fulfill his promise when you
haven't fulfilled the requirement he's given with respect to
that promise. Too many times people want a "short cut"
path through difficulty...they want a "quick fix"...it
doesn't happen with God...many pastors and teachers fail to tell
you about the conditions when they tell you about the promises.
How does that relate to how marriage was supposed to be an example
of how Christ lead the church ... turn away and be crucified
full well knowing that the love "endures all things"?
Not sure what you mean about Christ turning away??????? "Endures
all things"..."greater love hath no man than this...that
a man lay down his life for a friend"...Christ laid down
His life for ALL...friend AND enemy....
This one is easy. If you go through the Bible...CHRIST
(the bridegroom) is FAITHFUL, even WHEN THE BRIDE IS NOT! as
to being crucified....in marriage...the party of lesser guilt
must be willing to BEAR ALL THE GUILT FOR MARITAL PROBLEMS....NO
MATTER WHO IS AT FAULT...just as Christ bore the sins of the
world on the cross. anyway, any research and response and discussion
would full well make my journey and yours more fulfilling. (
come on you guys, dig! contact your pastors and priests, this
is a good question).
Actually, I hate to burst your bubble...but
it is really not a very challenging question...remember, that
when the Bible was written, they had to be very careful to write
about what they felt were the "HIGHLIGHTS" ''therefore,
everything written is important .... looks to me like the healing
of sick, casting out demons, and raising the dead, and the miracle
feedings, and stilling the storm would be more "verifiable"
and concrete than the nebulous area of "marital relationships"....It
doesn't mean he didn't do it...just that the Gospel writers didn't
tell it...also, because marriage is such a personal thing, it
may be that they felt it was not material which should be written
about. Just my thoughts.
I am new at this "bible stuff." I have had all of the
same questions as you. How could He let this happen? I t is not
right. It is not in the word, etc. I did not get true peace until
I really let go. Then I struggled with how do I let go and still
pray for restoration.
How do I do both? I asked the Lord to help me. It has not been
easy but God has taken care of it. I have been told that God
will not heal unless you are ready to "give it up".
Any thing we hold onto too tightly. He won't be able or won't
step in, even if it is biblical and rightfully ours.
Trust Him. There are no accidents in your
life when you are a born again Christian. I give God praise and
more praise. I lift Him up before my situation. I Let Him know
that He comes first and that I can do anything He wants me to
do. I beg Him to keep me filled with the Holy Spirit so I can
hear Him and to let others see Jesus in me. If I have that, I
have peace and victory. I hope you can hear Him speak to you.
Follow His direction for your life and pray.
Father, I pray that you would be one with
Bruce. Let him know your every thought and your will for his
life. Give him wisdom and understanding. Let him hear your voice
loud and clear through the power of the Holy Spirit. I ask you
for his marriage to be healed and restored not just for his sake
but for his daughter. Do not let her grow up in a divided home.
Protect her from the legacy of divorce. Protect this marriage
from the powers of darkness. I ask you this through the divine
power of the shed blood, and in the name, Christ Jesus.
God works in mysterious ways, His wonders to behold. Your name
is Bruce and my name is Bruce. Co-incidence ?
Philippians 2:13 NIV "For it is God who
works in you to will and to act according to His good purpose."
1) "Why are there examples of Jesus healing the sick (as
could be done with medicine) and doing miracles ( as could be
done with "magic" as in Exodus ) yet there are no examples
of Jesus healing a marriage?"
2) "Is healing a marriage too big of a miracle?"
3) "Does that relate to how marriage was supposed to be
an example of how Christ lead the Church ... turn away and be
crucified knowing full well that love endures all things?"
First of all, this is also much like your
other question got answered. Marriage breakups were simply not
supposed to happen any more than the Church was to get broken
up into all the various sects and denominations leading to dis-unity
through doctrinal differences instead of unity and togetherness
(LOVE) in the Church. It was always supposed to be ONE GOD married
to ONE CHURCH for ALL TIME. And, as you indicated, marriages
were to be an example of the Church "BODY" being joined
to that which is the "HEAD" which is Christ. INSEPARABLE
for all eternity. Genesis 2:23,24 1Corinthians 11:3 Ephesians
1:9-11 Ephesians 4:15,16.
Obviously that did not happen (not yet) with
either the Church or human marriages. Thank SATAN for that when
he beguiled Eve in the Garden of Eden and started it all going
in the wrong direction. But God is going to fix it all in His
own exceptionally merciful and patient time and in His own way
once He gets everything lined up the way it MUST be and Satan's
time runs out and he is chained in the "PIT" Revelation
20:1-3. He promises that in His Word. Revelation 21:3-5. We're
going back again to the way it first was in the Garden.
So, here is a passage that relates specifically
to your EXACT wording in your questions. In the following, Jesus
is healing all manner of diseases much to the "IRE"
(jealousy) of the Pharisees, when they confront Him with the
marriage breakup question.
Mat 19:1 When Jesus finished teaching, he left Galilee and went
to the part of Judea that is east of the Jordan River. THROUGH
TO: Mat 19:12
Some people are unable to marry because of
birth defects or because of what someone has done to their bodies.
Others stay single for the sake of the kingdom of heaven. Anyone
who can accept this teaching should do so."
And really, the salvation of you and your household IS PROMISED
in the Bible. Act 16:30 And took them out and said, Sirs, what
have I to do to get salvation? Act 16:31 And they said, Have
faith in the Lord Jesus, and you and your family will have salvation.
So, the KEY to ANY HEALING of ANY KIND is to have the pure and
simple unwavering FAITH that God CAN and WILL do it simply because
He SAYS He will. He is NOT A MAN that He could ever lie. But
in turn, WE must have the PATIENCE to WAIT for it. God (because
He is God) sees our situations from a very BROAD and profoundly
DEEP perspective, since He DESIGNED and BUILT us in the first
place. He quite often needs us to go through a learning process
or a humbling experience to develop more patience, forgiveness,
love, mercy, etc. in us. because these are HIS attributes. HIS
HOLY CHARACTER which He desires all those who want to be a part
of His BODY to have. The more you read the Bible and pray for
wisdom and understanding, the more you will understand Him and
DEVELOP His character.
Sometimes, He needs to steer us towards Him
FIRST before He can heal our relationships. He needs us to consider
getting married to HIM, who is our FIRST Love ( Rev 2:3-5). 1John
4:19 "We love because He first loved us."
READ: Mar 11:22- Mar 11:25
READ: Eph 4:12 -Eph 4:32
TO HE WHO ENDURED THE CROSS FOR THE JOY SET BEFORE HIM Hebrews
12:2-13 If we are to be like Him then we must carry our OWN CROSS
!! It simply cannot be any other way. For the path is narrow
and rocky that leads to heaven's gate (perfection) and everlasting
life in such AWESOME LOVE that we've never known in this life.
Matthew 7:14 HOPE THIS HELPS !!!
Your brother in Christ,
When we sin - we open portals to all kinds of emotional pain
- some we've pigeon-holed and labeled in heavy law books and
some we can only shrug at in wonder or disgust.
It's not as simple to close those portals as to open them. Separation,
Divorce, Custody Battles are just a few of the "fall out"
/ results / fruit of breaking covenant with GOD. He is LOVE,
therefore only HE can teach us how to LOVE.
Jesus does not speak of flying planes into
buildings or sending anthrax by mail or blowing up ourselves
or mailboxes ... HE nips it all in the bud with 1 Corinthians
All who break HIS law of love or live in the midst of those who
do WILL experience (pardon my French) crap.
GOD's principle is "Prevention is BETTER (LESS PAINFUL)
1 Corinthians 13: 4 - 7 (Living Bible version)
LOVE is patient and kind, never jealous or
envious, never boastful or proud, never haughty or selfish or
Addressing the question of divorce:
LOVE does not demand its own way.
_______ is not irritable or touchy.
_______ does not hold grudges and will hardly even notice when
others do him wrong.
JESUS is never glad about injustice, but rejoices whenever truth
IF you love someone you will be loyal to that person no matter
what the cost.
YOU will always believe in that person, and always stand your
ground in defending that person.
Romans 13:14 Galatians 3:27 Ephesians 4:24 Colossians 3:12,14
LOVE is GOD is LOVE - Unless we BECOME like Him and diligently,
relentlessly seek to encourage others to BECOME like HIM also
- we ALL suffer emotionally, physically, spiritually, intellectually
Psalm 118:8,9 It is better to trust in the LORD than to put confidence
I am a rookie also. This email of yours is an eye opener. I have
noticed in a lot of churches that the only thing I hear about
marriages that have problems is divorce. Pastors tell people
that have marital strife to divorce rather than help the couple
to come to the Lord and let Him help. In my church the pastor
told me to let her have the divorce, as she had committed adultery
& for me to find another woman & he would marry me no
problem. In her church she was told that the church sanctified
the divorce as there was abuse & that it was ok for her affair
with another woman as we are only human.
I am beginning to think that our churches are becoming more of
a place to hangout rather than hear the true word of the LORD.
Did not Christ equip us to maintain our marriages
versus healing them? It was never God's intent that marriages
require healing, rather He meant for them to remain intact and
the union to deepen and strengthen. He intended marriage to be
a PERMANENT union between a man and a woman. If a marriage union
is strained, it is still not broken. Only when the divorce comes,
is it separated, and even then not completely.
Matthew 19:4 And He answered and said to them, "Have you
not read that He who made them at the beginning 'made them male
and female,' 5 and said, 'For this reason a man shall leave his
father and mother and be joined to his wife, and the two shall
become one flesh'? 6 So then, they are no longer two but one
flesh. Therefore what God has joined together, let not man separate."
So if the married couple does divorce, is it not by choice? One
definition of divorce is this: "A complete or radical severance
of closely connected things." God does not intend for us
to be severed from Him. He said He would neither leave us or
forsake us. His love for the church IS the example of how marriage
should be. His willingness to endure all things, no matter the
cost, is the supreme example of marital love.
When Jesus healed the sick, the lame, the demon-possessed and
the dead, He was healing those people of conditions that they
could not control and did not choose. Divorce, on the other hand,
is a choice made by one or both of the parties involved. Healing
can only happen if these parties are willing to let it. Jesus
will heal anything if people will let Him.
READ: Ephesians 5:22 THROUGH 32
The Word is full of instruction and guidance on how we should
conduct ourselves in marriage and in life. With preventive maintenance,
a marriage will not need "fixing". If a marriage does
require healing and BOTH parties are willing to see it healed,
the Jesus most definitely will heal it.
As for child custody, Solomon himself decided a child custody
case in 1 Kings. The two harlots claimed a child, so Solomon
said to cut it in half. One woman said fine, the other said she
would rather give it up than see it killed. Solomon declared
her the true mother and gave her the baby. The one willing to
give up everything for the love of her child, is the one fit
for custody. Just as God was willing to give up His only begotten
Son for the benefit of His other children. He is most fit for
custody...don't you think?
Love in Christ,
That's a good question, one I don't have an answer to either.
But, my thoughts are this, maybe they didn't ask. Maybe they
just accepted it and their laws (Jewish customs) were different
than what we have today. But I have to go back to the scripture
that tells us that NOTHING is impossible for God and without
faith, we cannot please Him. If we all walked in COMPLETE obedience
to Him, we wouldn't have to be asking Him for marriage healing
or body healing or anything else. But, I am like you... I'm also
still asking for it.
The Lord rebuked me for it one day. I was in "one of those
fussing flesh moods" and railing on about how I needed Steve
and where was he and how long, Lord, how long and I heard Him
say....Am I not able to heal your marriage? Is My arm too short?
So.....I stopped the belly aching and started thanking Him and
praising Him for the healing that was taking place and would
one day manifest itself. It will be in His time, not ours.
Being patient and waiting on God can be frustrating at times.
But, you know, Bruce, that's the enemy trying to get us to take
our eyes off of Jesus and look at what looks impossible to us
(because it is). We can wait on Jesus or we can do things ourselves
and mess everything up that HE has already done in the situation.
He IS working, even tho we cannot see it.
We can't give up, we can't give in to the enemy. When we are
close to a breakthrough, that's when the enemy will work the
hardest on us. We have to keep the faith that God WILL restore
what the enemy stole from us. Keep praying and if you can pray
in tongues, do it. If you can't, ask God for that gift and keep
asking until you get it.
Look for the book by Stormie OMartian...the Power of a Praying
Husband. It is prayers to pray for your wife for every aspect
there is in her life. Just don't give up, give God time to work.
If He answered our prayers and they manifested right now, we
would get to the point that we would just ask for things without
doing what we are supposed to do for Him. It's His choice about
the time and we have to learn to respect His time, however long
Genesis 18:14 says Is anything too hard for the Lord? We know
that nothing is, but we have to be reminded from time to time.
Stay in the Word, because that's the way to find your answers
and keep you strong in Him. Divorce was NOT His idea, but He
permits it as it is a choice for us to make. Let Him be your
wife for a while, let Him be first in everything you do. HE has
been my husband for a couple of years now and each day it gets
better. I'm not giving up on my marriage, but while we are waiting,
He makes it worth it.
Love and prayers,
In the time that the Bible was written they did not have this
type of problem. Women had no rights at all and if a man wanted
to divorce her he could do so at any time and for no reason at
all. I am sure that if the husband divorced the wife the children
probably stayed with him. Children's positions were not of high
standing at this time either. I can not say with 100% surety
that the children would stay with father or go with the mother.
Our lives are so far from what God intended us to live. We are
a sinful nation and sinful world. We were born into this world
and from the first gulp of air we took in this world was sinful.
The only reason that Moses wrote up the rules for divorce was
because God's people (men) wanted to divorce older women and
old wives so that they could marry younger women and those of
the other nations.
You can log onto www.lwf.org and this will connect you to Love
Worth Finding. This is a Southern Baptist church in Memphis,
TN and he will be able to give you far better information that
I really don't know how to answer your question on healing a
marriage, but I will tell you what I think. You see I just went
through the same thing that you have gone through and I trusted
God for a healing in my marriage and He has yet to put mine back
together, although I believe He can if My ex-wife is willing.
Now to try and answer your question as best that I can.
God gave each one of us a will, and even though one wants something
and the other doesn't, God will never over step that person will.
So I guess our wives do not want to be married anymore or they
would hear God talking to them and they would come home where
God wants them to be and where they should be.
There was only one perfect person and He died on the cross and
rose on the third day and now He is on the throne and waiting
for us to come home with Him. But keep the faith and keep believing
and put all your trust in Him and He will see to it that He is
the winner and you will come out of this just find.
My wife got her divorce and it still hurts me today and I would
do anything for her to come home. My trust is still in God and
He will always be the one I turn to in my time of need, I still
trust that one day my beautiful wife will come home and we will
have a beautiful marriage. This I will continue to pray for every
day of my life. So you just keep your trust in God and He will
see us through, Charles.
In biblical times, all the man had to do was say be gone to his
wife, or I divorce thee and it was done. A wife could not divorce
a man. My memory could be bad on this. I know what man, not you,
that asked for prayer constantly for his marriage. This man was
always right no matter what and a control freak. As long as he
was like that, she would never get with him again. A lot of times
it is looking at ones self.
When I went through a divorce years back, my oldest daughter
responded to my knocking down my then divorced wife with a "shut
up and look at your self". Good words.
How many times did God speak to your wife or you in His still
quiet voice but no one heard. God does not take away free will.
That is there.
What is your wifes mind set; I have no idea. Would not want to
venture a guess in this area. I have been in prayer ministry
for 13 years now, 10 on the net. I have seen many marriages made
whole. I have seen many marriages not made whole. If one chooses
sin and one chooses virtue, for example, the marriage is not
equally yoked. The one choosing sin, cover in prayers of deliverance
and salvation. If one verbally abuses or physically abuses the
spouse, the marriage is not equally yoked; flee as fast as you
can I say to the one abused. Stay and you end up dead on permanently
deformed, crippled, etc.
There is a book called "Five and Ten" an excellent
book on the patience and faith needed in prayer. This is a true
story book and very enjoyable reading, a hard to put down book.
Scriptures on divorce:
Ways to prevent divorce - Ehpesians 5:24-25, 1 Yjrdds;pmosmd
Dealing with bitterness in divorce - Hebrews 12:15
Will God forgive you if you get divorced - Psalm 103.3, 1 John
1:9, Ephesians 3:18-19
How old is the concept of marriage - Genesis 2:24
What does the bible say about divorce - Malachi 2:14-16, Matthew
PS - I pray for people, I do not teach, etc. Am home sick today
so have a little time on my hand. If this letter is not on par,
forgive, as I am feeling very sick and have been through much
the past 3 years. I met Jesus face to face in 1999 and that gets
me through all the bad times. Both the old and new testaments
till us there will be fires and storms, but look to God always
and He will get you through them.
I will try to give you a little insight as in as much as I am
able. I am sending you Romans to study for an answer. But I mainly
Romans 8:28, but please read all of Romans 8.
Friend in Christ
Here is my 2 cents worth....I think that most of these things
were covered in the 10 commandments...not coveting, etc.
Also, divorce, for any reason, other than adultery, was strictly
forbidden. It just didn't happen...now there was the woman whom
Jesus spoke to, and she had "several" husbands...and
Jesus told her to go and sin no more...also, many marriages,
in the day of the Lord, were arranged...it just was, and I think
because they were "thrown" together, they learned to
love each other.
I believe that marriages are healed, in this day, however sin
is so rampant now adays, as far as sexual sin...living together
out of wedlock...just having sex with whomever, just for pleasures
sake...and easy to get divorces, for whatever reason...have placed
us in a precarious position, as far as healing marriages, no
one has to work on it any more...If you get bored with one partner,
you can go on to the next....and as far as miracles go...I ask
you one question...
Do you have faith as a grain of mustard seed? If we do, we can
Bruce, in the affairs of men (both men and
women) we have free will. That means we can choose to pursue
God and His ways or rebel and follow our own path to destruction.
The miracle is in God's pursuing Love for you, as evidenced by
your change of heart. Women are emotional beings and it is very
hard for them to give up hurt feelings in order to move closer
to God. Jesus will never force us to respond to his love we must
choose to pursue Him. If you look at the miracles in the bible
closely you will see that every one wanted to be healed, thus
choosing God's touch (the miracle). The issue here is when will
your wife choose God above her feelings? Prayer is our major
weapon in this. If you want to see change get two or three faithful
brothers to join with you weekly to pray and fast for your wife
until she pursues God completely and then you will see your miracle.
Your Brother in Christ,
A broken heart is a passport to Heaven........
A broken home is a symbol of a family not living in harmony with
Jesus said: "Ask and you shall receive. Ask anything of
the Father in My Name and it shall be given you"
Some things take time ....... even broken friendships heal. The
proof of the pudding is in the eating.........time will tell........
"Do whatever He tells you" said Mary of her Son, Jesus...that
goes for us too.
All things are possible with God.
A thing neglected and uncared for is a thing which is lost But
not forever if you pray and follow instructions of the heart.
Sunday Services and group prayer help immensely.
A family that prays together stays together.
Here are my thoughts on the issue:
I think God made marriage because it is not good for a man to
be alone...It is one of His Blessings just as gazing on a wondrous
newborn baby, which by the way Drs. that do this tell me is the
most awesome thing they have ever seen, watching air come into
and the baby take it's first breath. They tell me only God can
do that and they feel so very close to God when the baby takes
it's first breath.Okay back to marriage. It is one of Gods greatest
Blessings. Is much nicer than coming home to no-one and women
tend to be help mates and do many things needed to keep her husband
and a household going.
A wise man realizes and sees all she does and loves her for it.
Also the thought this beautiful gift from God has chosen you
to have the lifelong marriage with is enough to make most men
feel very loved. They surely could have picked someone else.
Some men have never known what it was like to be married (no-one
would have them) and have another person love them and care.
Unfortunately some barbaric men don't understand this gift, and
insult and demoralize and every ugly thing to their wives. There
were men like that in Biblical days and God saw it for that and
because of their hardened hearts and found no good in their wives
told them they may get divorced.
I think that was so a woman wouldn't have to suffer a lifetime
with a man like that. Man leans toward legal domination and controlling
and can even get to the point of barbaric. It's only upon having
a Godly life that man can change and show his unselfish self
and his wife always sees the best of him and rarely the worst.
This is a man very slow to anger, never speaks an unkind word
and his wife adores him..
God also says love your wives as I love my churches which is
a real lot. If a man is right with God, God will come first in
his life and his wife will be second only to God...That means
she must be a joint heir to all Blessings and things that come
from the marriage, in other words if she's their with you during
all the rough times, she should as well be their during the greatest
of times. Sadly some men strike it rich and the first thing they
do is get rid of their wives and become self centered fools and
then when they have nothing left go back to the woman who is
hurt and disillusioned and can't believe what little worth she
really was to her husband....have seen this several times.
Then their are some of the most beautiful and Godly men. Thomas
Kinkade the famous Christian artist married when they were poor,
his paintings have made him rich, every painting he has ever
done has his wife's first initial in their somewhere. She is
tickled and finds him wonderful. He's not the most handsome man
and could have thrown his wife away and his money would have
attracted allot of women, but he was wise and Christian and rather
than fight or bicker he chose to only bring them up in the world
and make her so glad in every way she picked him for a husband...His
priorities are dead right on the money, his wife is everything
and only 2nd to God and it shows, they both weigh good, the world
has his beautiful paintings, God inspired and God has showered
them with all His blessings....He listens to his wife also and
that made a big difference, behind any good man is a wonderful
Perhaps during those times marriage was treated differently.
We know that society today treats marriage as they do a used
car-it gets too old, broken or inconvenient they toss it!
I don't think that was the case then as it really wasn't in the
days of my parents...husbands and wives stayed together...that's
all, they really never considered another option. So perhaps
Jesus didn't need to perform miracles in marriages the way he
He did perform one in mine. I don't know if you remember me or
my testimony but my husband had filed for divorce and we were
just 6 weeks from the final decree. He said the ONLY way he would
drop the divorce was for God to speak to him and tell him it
was wrong. Well today we are reconciled and he is back home...because
God spoke to his heart.....PRAISE GOD. sooooooo miracles happen
today because we need them in this throw-away society of ours
regarding marriage. I believe there were probably quiet miracles
done in relationships. Right choices being made , mistakes being
corrected because they listened to God. Here's an example: Abraham
and Sarah...when they couldn't have children and she gave her
maid , Hagar. They had a son together, Ishmael. Then, when the
Lord blessed Sarah even at her late age with a son she wanted
Hagar cast out. Abraham obeyed Sarah's wishes even though he
was also dismissing his first son , Ishmael.(This reminds me
of the present....a man who might be involved in an affair and
then must choose between his wife or mistress. In other words,
to do "the right thing" and find the path of righteousness
and obeying God's Will. I think that is how in those days God
put marriages back together.
There was a miracle in Sarah bearing a child at her advanced
age...but that in turn put the marriage back on the right path
by making it the most important relationship after Abraham's
relationship with God and removing the competing relationship.)
Just a thought.....
Actually if you read Poem of the Mangod series, which is a set
of books that were dictated to the seeress Maria Valtorta by
Jesus himself, that you will find examples of where He did heal
marriages that were on the brink of disaster. However, the reasoning
causing the problems were that they had no children and that
was a justifiable reason in those times. There was even an example
of an old couple who came to Jerusalem to give offerings because
their daughter's husband wanted to repudiate her and all Jesus
asked of them was to believe in the power of God. The divorce
didn't take place.
The only downside to all of this is that every person has their
own free will which God will not do violence to. If someone chooses
to follow their hearts which are being led by satan, God will
not override their will.
The plus side is that by praying for an individual that the prayers
are pulling them back towards the side of God and then a miracle
can take place. I am working with a woman right now who is following
evil and the prayers that are being said for her cause her to
erupt in anger. That may sound bad but in reality she is feeling
the pull and satan doesn't want to lose his prey so that is why
Continue to pray for her and God will see the righteousness of
your prayers and they will not be said in vain. Hopefully she
will see the error of her ways and turn back to God and to you
before it is too late.
I will continue praying for this miracle for you and you must
put your faith and love in the Hands of God and something very
positive will take place.
I'm sorry to tell you that the answer to your question is quite
simple. You see, too many times, man gets in the way of God.
It is His perfect will for a marriage to never break apart.
However, we are given a free will and if one or both want to
break the marriage, it will happen. God is not the author of
this, your wife is. If she does not abide in Him and wants nothing
to do with you or Him, that, unfortunately is her decision.
God Bless you,
Bruce, a marriage cannot be 'healed' without an attitude change
on the part of husband and or wife. I have never seen a marriage
fall apart but that one or both of the parties decided to put
self ahead of the interests of the other party. The ability to
make self sacrifice is not natural to the carnal human nature
but comes from an association with Jesus Christ. When both parties
to the marriage are committed first to the Lord and then to each
other they have a much stronger foundation to their marriage.
The best way to heal a marriage therefore is for both parties
to seek first the Kingdom of God and put Him first in their lives.
As this requires willful consent on the part of the individual
to submit themselves to Christ, it is not possible for Christ
to 'heal' a marriage like He might heal blindness. It is down
to the choices of the individuals and He will never force the
will... hope this helps...
Jesus Christ did affirm the value of marriage though we don't
have any recorded messages on the subject. Jesus did affirm the
importance of marriage simply in the fact that He chose a wedding
feast to reveal His ability to perform miracles. Whenever Jesus
healed any individual, be it physical, emotional, or spiritual,
it impacted the family of that individual. Though Jesus didn't
focus specifically on the marriage relationship, any teaching
regarding our relationship with Him or with others directly impacted
marriage and family.
As a husband, the first arena of human relationships
that is impacted by my
love for and obedience to God is my relationship with my spouse
and then my
I hope this may help you in your desire to
understand truth. My prayer
is that the Holy Spirit will reveal this truth to you.
In His Service,
Two days back I got an email from one person saying, "So
now I ask my question. Why are there examples of Jesus healing
the sick (as could be done with medicine) and doing other miracles
(as could be done with "magic" as in Exodus) yet there
are no examples of Jesus healing a marriage?
For discussion purposes: is healing a marriage
to big of a miracle? How does that relate to hoe marriage was
supposed to be an example of how Christ lead the church ... turn
away and be crucified full well knowing that the love "endures
And I started thinking that is there any passage in Gospels where
Jesus dealt with this subject? While praying, Holy Spirit reminded
me few passages where Jesus clearly dealt with the problem of
marriages. I am taking only one passage today.
In John 4th chapter we read that Jesus spoke
with a Samaritan woman and after talking few moments when Jesus
said to her that, He can give the living water to her. So the
woman said to Him in John 4:15, "Sir, give me this water,
that I may not thirst, nor come here to draw." And further
we read their conversation in John 4:16-18 Jesus said to her,
"Go, call your husband, and come here." The woman answered
and said, "I have no husband." Jesus said to her, "You
have well said, 'I have no husband,' "for you have had five
husbands, and the one whom you now have is not your husband;
in that you spoke truly."
Look at the life of Samaritan woman, does
not it reflect the today's modern society? She was not a prostitute
but she had five husbands. She might have divorced one after
another and like wise married five husbands. And further Jesus
says to her, "And the one whom you now have is not your
husband; in that you spoke truly." It seems that 6th one
was her new boyfriend with whom she was dating and living with
him before marriage.
Is it not a picture of our modern society
today? Young men and young women are dating and living with each
other before their marriages and many walk away before their
marriage takes place or they take divorce if they are married.
If you look around, you will find many are like that only. Once
a person wrote to me about his tragic life that really broke
my heart. He said, "I and my girlfriend dated and started
living together without getting married. And had kids. But now
my girlfriend has a new boyfriend who frequently visits our home
and it really bothers me. It is also not good for our kids."
And the most amazing thing is our society has approved these
types of atrocities. Once a pastor told us that, "It is
the culture of America and we cannot do anything in it."
Then he said, "If you think that wearing makeup is not sin
then living with each other before marriage is also not sin."
Our pastors, elders and even parents have bowed down before devil
and no wonder the result is in front of us. Young people are
living a messed up life like scrambled eggs. They have no idea
where to turn, what to do.