Wives Are Not Slaves

Eph 5:25 Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ also loved the church and gave Himself for her,

All too often, mom gets up, gets breakfast ready for her husband and children and attempts to grab a bite for herself. After dad has left for work, and the children for school, mom’s work has just begun.

There are the dishes to be washed, perhaps a child who is not in school, to be tended to, and a never-ending pile of laundry to be done. The jelly spilled on the dining room floor, must be cleaned up before it is tracked around the house, and a covered dish to be prepared for the church social.

There is that water payment to be dropped off, and some shopping to do at the local grocery; the kids will be looking for a snack when they come in from school, but mom must hurry, because there is the evening meal to prepare before dad gets home.

The door opens, dad walks in, gives mom a quick kiss, and plops down in his favorite chair; after all, he’s been "working" all day, he deserves it! What does he think his wife has been doing all day? And her work-day, is not nearly over!

Dad, your wife is not your slave; she is to walk beside you, not behind you. You are to "love [your] own [wife] as [your] own [body]; he who loves his wife loves himself. For no one ever hated his own flesh, but nourishes and cherishes it, just as the Lord does the church.

For we are members of His body, of His flesh and of His bones. For this reason a man shall leave his father and mother and be joined to his wife, and the two shall become one flesh."(Eph 5:28-31)

I am probably not going to make many friends among the male readers of the Daily Meditations, however, I am going to tell it like it is; when the daily chores are ‘all’ finished, then both mom and dad should be able to sit down and relax "together."

This may come as a shock to some men, but there is nothing wrong with helping prepare the meal, wash the dishes, do the laundry, vacuum the carpet and taking out the garbage. Talk is cheap men, show your wife how much you love her. Show her with a dish-towel, or a mop. Let her see it as you change your child’s diaper, you’ll be surprised at the love that will develop between you and your child.

Men, when you show your wife the love that she deserves, she will respect you in return.(Eph 5:33) Try it; you’ll both like it!

Parents Are Not Slaves

Prov 22:6 Train up a child in the way he should go, And when he is old he will not depart from it.

I have dropped in to ask you: "Who is training who, in your house?" Does your child demand shoes with the right symbol on them, and shirts with the correct tag? Who is running your household, you, as the parents, or your children?

If you are spending many times more, to purchase items that are no better quality, but carry the ‘in’ name, you are handicapping your child/children. You are contributing to a sin, that will get

God’s attention quicker than anything else; a sin that got old slewfoot kicked out of heaven; the sin called "pride." If you are appeasing them temporarily, you are crippling them permanently!

If you are training your child, or letting them train you (Smile), to wear the latest fashion in order to fit it, you are setting them up for a fall. If they must "fit in," then how are they to say ‘no’ to drugs, premarital sex and other sins? Who is training who???

Do you really think that children truly respect parents whom they control? When you say ‘no’ to your child, does he/she keep coming at you from different angles, until they get their own way?

When you ‘give in,’ you are not showing love, you are proving you are a wimp! You are training your child to feel contempt for you, even though they are too smart to let you know.

My friend, "take heed to yourself, and diligently keep yourself, lest you forget the things your eyes have seen, and lest they depart from your heart all the days of your life. And teach them to your children and your grandchildren."(Deu 4:9) Teach your child God’s ways, not the ways of being popular, "teach them diligently to your children, and [you] shall talk of them when you sit in your house, when you walk by the way, when you lie down, and when you rise up."(Deu 6:7)

Parents, God does not want you to "provoke your children to wrath, but bring them up in the training and admonition of the Lord."(Eph 6:4) Does that mean you are to give in to their demands, in order to avoid "provoking" them? Absolutely not!

The word "provoke" means:

1. To incite to anger or resentment.

2. To stir to action or feeling.

3. To bring about deliberately; induce: provoke a fight.

You are to avoid deliberately doing something just to make them mad. Nonetheless, if they get upset when you stand for what is right, so be it, stand firm anyway; "parents are not slaves!"

Parents, do it God’s way, not your child’s way, He knows best. Try it: you can do it!


Husbands Are Not Slaves

1 Cor 7:4,5 The wife does not have authority over her own body, but the husband does. And likewise the husband does not have authority over his own body, but the wife does. Do not deprive one another except with consent for a time, that you may give yourselves to fasting and prayer; and come together again so that Satan does not tempt you because of your lack of self-control.

The first two sentences of today’s text make it perfectly clear that neither the husband, nor wife, is to be ‘in control.’ Ladies, I am going to jump right on your toes; if you think that you must be in control, in your marriage, you are contributing to it’s failure. Yesterday, I wrote that wives are to walk beside their husbands, not behind them. I stand by that! Now, let me restate it: Wives are to walk beside their husbands, not ‘ahead’ of them.

Now I am going to jump into dangerous water; wives, if you are using sex as a weapon, you are wrong. If you decide there will be no sex, until your husband meets your demands, you are WRONG! That is not my opinion, that is God’s Word. Remember, God’s Word states, "Do not deprive one another except with consent." Should you disagree with that concept, argue with God about it, not this preacher; if you get Him to change His mind, please let me know.(Smile)

Wives, one of your main functions should be to lift your husband up, not tear him down. If he makes mistakes, he is in good company; so do you. Let’s take a look at God’s Word, and observe the characteristics of a good wife:

Who can find a virtuous wife? For her worth is far above rubies. The heart of her husband safely trusts her; So he will have no lack of gain.

She does him good and not evil, all the days of her life.

She seeks wool and flax, And willingly works with her hands.

She is like the merchant ships, She brings her food from afar.

She also rises while it is yet night, And provides food for her household, And a portion for her maidservants.

She considers a field and buys it; From her profits she plants a vineyard.

She girds herself with strength, And strengthens her arms.

She perceives that her merchandise is good, And her lamp does not go out by night.

She stretches out her hands to the distaff, And her hand holds the spindle.

She extends her hand to the poor, Yes, she reaches out her hands to the needy.

She is not afraid of snow for her household, For all her household is clothed with scarlet.

She makes tapestry for herself; Her clothing is fine linen and purple.

Her husband is known in the gates, When he sits among the elders of the land.

She makes linen garments and sells them, And supplies sashes for the merchants. Strength and honor are her clothing; She shall rejoice in time to come.

She opens her mouth with wisdom, And on her tongue is the law of kindness.

She watches over the ways of her household, And does not eat the bread of idleness. Her children rise up and call her blessed; Her husband also, and he praises her:

"Many daughters have done well, But you excel them all." Charm is deceitful and beauty is passing, But a woman who fears the LORD, she shall be praised. (Proverbs 31:10-31)


Let me hasten to say, God’s doesn’t expect any woman to do all that in a single day, He just expects you to be busy while your husband is working; "husbands are not slaves." It is interesting to note; the series of verses I just quoted, closes with "Charm is deceitful and beauty is passing." If you think that they are permanent qualities, spend a day in a nursing home! HHmmm!

If you will read yesterday’s Daily Meditation, along with this one, you will see that ‘both’ men and women are to walk side-by-side, both doing their part in their marriage. Neither spouse is to be a ‘slave’ to the other.

Now, reach out and take your spouse’s hand; walk through life doing your best to lift one-another up. That’s God concept; not mine!

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