There are alot of responsibilities that come with carrying one's cross. One of them without doubt is dealing with-- hurt! In marriage where too people are living "as one", hurt is bound to come up. Not to mention that we are all still walking in the flesh, it is satan's greatest playground to stir trouble within the marriage and family. That said.....what are we to do when we are hurt?

The most natural human feeling is to strike back! Many will choose this method and gain zero. Striking back solves nothing. Many times the hurt that we are feeling was really not meant for the one who received it, ie: you were just the one there at that moment! It's really important to not take words too seriously.

People's actions show more what is in their heart than what they might say. So when your getting ready to gauge someone on the likeable scale....think about what is really in their heart, not what they have said

It's probably safe to say for most that Life is not fair,..it's difficult! That's a given, and if we really spend time in God's word...understanding what it says, we will soon realize that the very hurt in our lives becomes the heart our Christian testimony.

When we let go of our lives and let God take charge we experience freedom from hurt. Why...because our dependency on God means we have to let go of our own personal desires. When our personal desires become our priority we selfishly get in the way of what God want us to do for Him! We need to live for God! Then from the start we know that we will never have to endure the kind of pain that Jesus was subject to. We will never even come close to that kind of suffering. In comparison, that puts a brand new look on our pain.

Consider this

No one was ever more "ripped off" than our Savior. Absolutely no one. Jesus of Nazareth was the only perfect Man who ever lived, yet He suffered continually during His brief life on this planet. He was misunderstood, maligned, hated, arrested, and tortured. Finally, they crucified Him.

And Peter says we are to walk in the steps of Jesus. (I Peter 2:21)

Excerpt from Hope Again
by Charles Swindoll

You can put a whole new spin on your life and you might even find yourself even more happier if see those who hurt you in the light that God sees them. He loves everyone, even sinners, even those that we might not like at the moment. Many of God's people are lost. It is because of their lost state that they become unknowingly prey of the evil powers of this world.

For we do not wrestle against flesh and blood,
but against principalities, against powers,
against the rulers of the darkness of this age,
against spiritual hosts of wickedness in the heavenly places.
Therefore take up the whole armor of God
that you may be able to withstand in the evil day,
and having done all, to stand.
Ephesians 6:12-1

The Bible is filled with instruction on how to handle our hurt because God knew how much we would have to endure. He also gave us the perfect way to handle it. In Him we are free! We are not alone....God knows every tear we shed....every pain we feel, every unfairness we face!

We started out with I Peter 3:12....For the eyes of the Lord are upon the righteous, and His ears attend to their prayers.

God is well aware of the injustice you may be suffering. He is now looking to see how you are going to handle it!

Will you ultimately bring Glory to His Name in your suffering,....? If your suffering has brought you closer to Him, you are seeking and applying His counsel in the Bible, and you now find your heart softening, you my friend, are bringing Glory to our Father in Christ Jesus

My brethren ..
count it all joy when you fall into various trials,
knowing that the testing of your faith produces patience.

But let patience have its perfect work,
that you may be perfect and complete,
lacking nothing.

If any of you lacks wisdom,
let him ask of God,
who gives to all liberally and without reproach,
and it will be given to him

As we take each step closer to God and feel His love for others, peace and joy will come into the heart that is hurt.


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