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The first thing you have to realize is why God takes marriage so seriously. The reason marriage is such a holy entity is because marriage was ordained by God even before sin entered the world. Read Genesis 2:19-25

Immediately following Adam naming the cattle, fowl, and the beasts of the field, God created Eve and brought her to Adam. The first thing Adam says is this is now bone of my bone, and flesh of flesh and he called her woman because she was taken from man. Verse 24 states: "Therefore shall a man leave his father and his mother, and shall cleave unto his wife: and they hall be one flesh" This is where the entity of marriage was ordained. For those that would argue this read on to verse 25: "And they were both naked, the man and his wife, and were not ashamed" Sin could have entered the world yet because the shame of their nakedness did not come about until they chose to partake of the tree of knowledge of good and evil.

There have been times in my own marriage when I was certain my wife would probably leave. Praise God that never happened. But there is something I have learned along the way that has proven an invaluable tool. When these times arise, the first thing I know I need to do is to ask God to reveal to me where I have fallen short as a husband.
Often times I find that whatever is affecting my marriage, usually stems from something I have allowed into my own life. As the husband, the things you allow into your life will be released upon your family as well.
Ephesians 5:23 tells us: "For the husband is the head of the wife, even as Christ is the head of the church: and he is the saviour of the body."

Here we learn that the husband, not the wife, is the head, the spiritual authority, the one accountable to God for the spiritual well being of his family. This DOES NOT mean ownership! It is a responsibility bestowed upon the husband. Considering that you are the spiritual authority, whatsoever you allow into your own life will be released upon your family.

Ephesians 5:31 tells us: "For this cause shall a man leave his father and mother, and shall be joined unto his wife, and they two shall be one flesh."

Is it possible for two to become one without partaking of the same things? I don't think so. The only difference is that the husband is the spiritual authority.

The Bible also tells us that whatsoever we loose on earth shall be loosed in heaven and that whatsoever we bind on earth shall be bound in heaven.

Basically, you have the same responsibility to your wife and family that a pastor has to his congregation. This is why so many pastors very cautiously guard their pulpits. Because they know that whatever they allow to come into the church will be released into the congregation. They are accountable to God for this. If they allow someone to come in and teach things that aren't truly from God, it will flow through the congregation. This doesn't particularly mean somebody that is blatantly twisting the word of God either.

In this same authority, whatever you allow into your life that is not truly from God, will flow through your family. By design, women will often return to their husband what they are being fed. Are they being fed love, compassion, hope, and companionship? Or are they being fed anger, strife, insecurity, and fear? As the husband, you are only going to reap what you sow. Even if it's a subtle negative, it will return to you.


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The Husband's Responsibility to his Wife & the Bible!

The husband is to love his wife above all other human beings. Consider Eph. 5:25 and 28; and Col. 3:19. These passages teach that the husband is to be considerate and tender. The verses in Ephesians 5 teach that the husband is to cherish his wife. This means that she is to be treated with tenderness and affection. This would mean that since love must be fed, there is to be a warm demonstrative love relationship. The husband has the responsibility of not only demonstrating his love and concern, but telling her.

He should not sit in such self-absorption that he does not talk with her and communicate with her socially, mentally, verbally and physically. The husband will demonstrate his love for his wife in other ways, rather than just at the time of sexual relationship. If this is the only time that affection and consideration is shown, then a wife will get the idea that all a husband is interested in is her body and that she is merely a sex object.

I Peter 3:7, teaches that the husband is to honor his wife. She gave up her name to take yours. Honor means that you should show her respect and this involves courtesy, consideration and emotional support. Be sure that as her husband that you do not hold her up to ridicule in public by the cutting remarks that you make. She wears YOUR name and is to viewed as part of your body. She is not perfect and you are aware of this. Do not expect perfection, but as Ephesians 4:32 teaches, "forbear one another". This means to be gentle toward her. Control of temper, abstaining from physical violence and restraining a sharp tongue that makes one feel so inferior - are ways by which you can exhibit forbearance.

Paul presents another responsibility of husbands in I Timothy 5:8 - "But if any provide not for his own, especially for those of his own household, he hath denied the faith and is worse than an infidel". Marriage is a financial venture and the husband has a responsibility to finance or support or provide for his family. This is talking about money. As a husband, your earnings are not your own but belong to your wife as well and your children.

Another responsibility of the husband is to be active in the area of the discipline and rearing of the children. When the Apostle Paul was giving the qualifications for elders and deacons, he included this statement that is certainly applicable to all men: I Timothy 3:3-5, and he speaks of ruling your own house. Now this discipline should be with love. Many times discipline is administered without love. The Book says in Ephesians 6:4, "Fathers provoke not your children to wrath", and again in Colossians 3:21, "Fathers provoke not your children to anger lest they be discouraged". The
husband therefore does not leave all the discipline up to his wife, but shares in the molding and direction of your children
. It is not a proper division of responsibility to say that as the husband I will provide the living and the wife is to take care of the house and children. The husband has duties even after his days work is done by which lie is earning a living to support his family.

The Christian father should set an example for his family as he earns a living, directs the household with concern for each member, and as he fulfills his role as head of the house. He should see to their spiritual development by the life he lives and the direction in which he leads his family.

Your wife is a part of your body - you are a part of each other. For this reason Paul said, "Love your wife". He didn't say, if you want to. As you love her, you love yourself and are fulfilling the role that the Lord wanted you to have.

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